There comes a time when you realize that there are two types of girls. The kind that can be loved for a night, and the kind that can be loved forever.
I’ve never been the kind of girl that all the guys have been after. I’m not easy. I’m not hot. I’m not looking to hook-up. These are the girls who give of their bodies; these are the kind of girls who can only be loved for a night. Because easy doesn’t guarantee anything, and physical beauty has an expiration date. If you’re empty and shallow, what do you have left when the wrinkles start to show?
The girls who wait to commit themselves to guys who will treat them right and who realize that beauty comes from within, these are the girls who can be loved forever. These are the girls who give of their heart and soul. These are the girls who win in the end. Because their beauty is timeless. The wrinkles don’t matter because it was never about her face or her body anyway. It was always about her heart and her soul.
Right now, it’s hard, believe me, I know. Because most guys are thinking with their nether regions instead of their heads and their hearts. But in a few years, when they’ve had their fun and realized that hooking-up isn’t fulfilling, they’ll be looking for the kind of girls that they can love forever. The ones who will see them as more than a boy-toy, who will make them a good wife, who will love them forever, and who will make good mothers. Being physically attractive and good in the bedroom does not set up a good future.
Besides, what does it say about you if all you are is a nighttime plaything? Is being popular and good-looking and sexually desirable really worth throwing all of your self-respect away and flushing your dignity down the toilet? You are worth so much more than a one-night stand. You deserve so much more than a one-night stand. So ladies, if you don’t have guys knocking on your door and begging to get in bed with you, you’re not missing out on anything. Because when the night is over, when he’s lost interest, when you can’t satisfy his appetite anymore, you’re left with nothing. He never loved you anyway.
Now, I believe that people can change. The girls who can be loved for a night can change to be ones who can be loved forever. But it takes time and effort. You can’t just change overnight. As wonderful as A Christmas Carol is, it doesn’t remotely show an accurate representation of how most change comes about in people. It’s something that you have to commit to every day until it becomes the truth of your very being. Unfortunately, most girls who can be loved for a night realize this all very late, if ever.
So, to my girls who can be loved forever: never fear. Your time is coming. Boys are young and stupid and in some ways, not worth dealing with. Appreciate them as friends and as people, and learn from whatever happens in the romantic contexts that do come your way (because even girls who can be loved forever can have their fair share of boy moments). But just know that in the end, you will win out. When the boys become men, they will be looking for women. Strong, beautiful women. To have and to hold, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health. And you will be right there waiting.
“Hot is an appearance, beautiful is more than skin-deep.”
Stay beautiful ❤